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About IGNORE IT!
Kids have an uncanny knack for knowing the exact combination of actions necessary to drive their siblings – and parents – to their knees. Whether they delight in asking “why” ad nauseum, relish the hysteria they can provoke in their sister with an imperceptible glance, or thrill at the nightly pre-bath chase, our kids know how to push our limits.
Faced with similar scenarios, many parents will resort to yelling or giving in, but it turns out these responses only make this irritating behavior worse. That’s why leading parenting expert Catherine Pearlman suggests a seemingly unconventional, yet remarkably effective approach in IGNORE IT! How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction (a TarcherPerigee paperback).
Drawing on her own experience with her children and the success stories of her clients, Pearlman demonstrates how selectively ignoring not only relieves parents from nagging, but also allows kids to actually learn from their mistakes. In this easy-to-navigate guidebook, readers will learn:
- How to eliminate problem behavior in just a few days
- What behaviors are appropriate to ignore, and what to do when ignoring is not an option
- How to use time-outs effectively, so they don’t become a battle of wills
- How to create a reward system that actually works
- What to do when mom and dad are not on the same page when it comes to discipline
An essential toolkit for frustrated, stressed-out parents, IGNORE IT! offers actionable, proven techniques that will help readers improve their kids’ behavior and put the joy back in parenting.
The title is simple and short and so is the lesson from this book….IGNORE IT! Our kids feed off our irritations and so they continue their inappropriate or unpleasant behavior because they know it just grinds us to no end. Pearlman does a great job explaining this whole scenario in a nutshell and the importance of just ignoring these habits and once they do not then get recognition or emotions from the parents to continue the annoying habit, it stops or lessens. But also consistency (like anything else) makes the beauty of this concept work. It isn’t an easy process for the parents to simply ignore their kiddos. Pearlman gives step by step instructions on how to pull this off, when to and how to start immediately to wave off those behavior problems in no time.
Good book! Quick read and it’s a book that can picked up and put down easily upon return to reading. At the end of each chapter, there are “Important Points to Remember” which seems very helpful to pull the entire chapter together. Pearlman also shares plenty of examples that are tried and true and she also takes charge of talking about negotiating. The back of the book supplies FAQs for further referencing along with further resources, age-appropriate rewards, sample charts, etc to assist with every scenario.
Have some inappropriate or unpleasant behavior with the kiddos that need work on to protect your sanity? IGNORE IT! May be the book for you. It can be purchased at Amazon, Barnes & Noble and anywhere books are sold.
About the Author:
CATHERINE PEARLMAN is the founder of The Family Coach, a private practice specializing in helping families resolve everyday problems related to discipline, sleep, and sibling rivalry, among other issues. She is the proud parent of a son in elementary school and a daughter in middle school. Her syndicated Dear Family Coach column has appeared in The Wall Street Journal and many regional parenting magazines. She has appeared on Today and her advice has been featured in Parenting, Men’s Health, CNN.com, and The Huffington Post. Dr. Pearlman is a licensed clinical social worker who has been working with children and families for more than twenty years. She is an assistant professor of social work at Brandman University and received her PhD in social welfare from Yeshiva University and a masters of social work from New York University.